The leaves are falling, football games are being played and the hobgoblins of Halloween have come and gone – the fall season has arrived. I can’t help but think, “Before you know it the holidays will be upon us!”
Some of the stores have had their Christmas stock displayed for weeks! “Where did the time go?” you may ask yourself. Or, if you are like me, you are asking yourself, “How will I be able to get it all done this year?” I haven’t even taken the Halloween decorations down and I am already stressed out about my work travel plans and how they will effect preparing for Thanksgiving, holiday shopping, regular household chores/errands, etc. Then there are the holiday parties, school shows, and entertaining friends and family.
It makes me ask myself, “How will I get it ALL done?” as well as, “How do my friends who are family caregivers get it ALL done?” Being a family caregiver is a daunting, exhausting undertaking that seems to have the biggest effect during the holidays—most caregivers are also moms and dads, so taking care of their loved one as well as caring for and entertaining their families during the holidays is a HUGE source of pressure and anxiety. So, how can caregivers (and I) get organized for the holidays and actually enjoy the season?
I have made two lists, one for work and for home, that contain all the things I think I need to accomplish before the end of the year so I can get organized before the holidays actually hit. As I accomplish each task, I valiantly cross it off the list with a sense of pride and success. But, wait, there’s more: I organized my thoughts by putting them on a list, but how do I organize myself? I asked my good friend, Dr. Mary Evans, for some tips on how to get through the holidays and the rest of the year without falling apart from the stress, travel, crazy schedules and changing weather. Here is what she offered:
- Make time for meals, especially breakfast.
- Choose healthy snack options.
- Exercise for 30 minutes a day at least four times a week.
- Get a good night’s sleep, at least 7-8 hours a night.
- Plan light travel schedules to avoid being rushed and give your itinerary and contact information to a caregiver back home.
- Make time for activities with partners, children, and friends, even if it is just a walk, movie, or dinner.
- Organize a family meeting with other caregivers to delegate responsibilities and discuss concerns.
- Pack light so you won’t be lugging around heavy luggage.
- Think of ordering takeout or delivery, or hosting a potluck with friends with plastic dinnerware – no cooking and easy cleanup!
- If flying, keep all medication, documentation, and valuables on you in case your luggage is lost or misplaced.
In addition to these handy tips, many senior care providers are making family resource websites available to help families learn more about their community and about the senior care experience. Silverchair has worked with several of our clients to offer a Family Website full of community information as well as courses to help families learn more. We even have courses on how to manage the stress of the holiday season! Here are a few of the courses we offer:
- (It’s All About You) Be Kind to Yourself, You’ve Earned It: Promoting a Healthy Caregiver Lifestyle will teach you about healthy eating, sleep, and exercise habits.
- (It’s All About You) Caring From Afar: Long-Distance Caregiving demonstrates ways to stay in touch and care for a loved one long distance.
- (Tender Loving Care) Hitting the Road: Traveling with Seniors discusses precautions and suggestions for worry-free travels with an aging loved one.
- (It’s All About You) Living Life As Usual: How to Maintain Caregiver Relationships suggests steps to rekindle meaningful togetherness with your relatives, partner, children, and friends.
- (Communication) Staying Connected: What to Do and What to Say When Visiting explains how to make the most of your visits with a loved one at the care community.
- (Communication) Taming the Task of Engaging Family Members and Friends offers tips on how to conduct an effective caregiver family meeting.
Silverchair wishes everyone a wonderful start to the holiday season! Stay tuned to your community’s Family Website for important announcements and fun pictures from the activities going on in the community.
- by Marylynn Hibdon, PHR and Director, Editorial and Product Support – SLS For Families
November 9, 2011